Ben, To answer your question about how to change the funeral atmosphere, I would suggest it begins with your leadership teaching about it. It has to be clear what God expects and the leaders should teach and prepare the congregation. We serve a RISEN savior, therefore we should not act as if Jesus is still in the tomb. Secondly, the worship leaders must, as you said, truly model a jubilant spirit while leading. Don't give up. It will make a difference. Also, we need to be tolerant and helpful to others, not judgmental. Remember, we are all on a journey and can grow to express our worship in different ways. But I agree, Christians are missing out if they only have a sad, somber experience all the time minus any rejoicing.